How Do We Find Happiness? Risk over Reward


1 Samuel 17:1-11, 32-37
September 8, 2013

Now the Philistines gathered their armies for battle; they were gathered at Socoh, which belongs to Judah, and encamped between Socoh and Azekah, in Ephes-dammim. Saul and the Israelites gathered and encamped in the valley of Elah, and formed ranks against the Philistines. The Philistines stood on the mountain on one side, and Israel stood on the mountain on the other side, with a valley between them.
And there came out from the camp of the Philistines a champion named Goliath, of Gath, whose height was six cubits and a span. He had a helmet of bronze on his head, and he was armored with a coat of mail; the weight of the coat was five thousand shekels of bronze. He had greaves of bronze on his legs and a javelin of bronze slung between his shoulders. The shaft of his spear was like a weaver’s beam, and his spear’s head weighed six hundred shekels of iron; and his shield-bearer went before him.
He stood and shouted to the ranks of Israel, ‘Why have you come out to draw up for battle? Am I not a Philistine, and are you not servants of Saul? Choose a man for yourselves, and let him come down to me. If he is able to fight with me and kill me, then we will be your servants; but if I prevail against him and kill him, then you shall be our servants and serve us.’ And the Philistine said, ‘Today I defy the ranks of Israel! Give me a man, that we may fight together.’
When Saul and all Israel heard these words of the Philistine, they were dismayed and greatly afraid. David said to Saul, ‘Let no one’s heart fail because of him; your servant will go and fight with this Philistine.’ Saul said to David, ‘You are not able to go against this Philistine to fight with him; for you are just a boy, and he has been a warrior from his youth.’
But David said to Saul, ‘Your servant used to keep sheep for his father; and whenever a lion or a bear came, and took a lamb from the flock, I went after it and struck it down, rescuing the lamb from its mouth; and if it turned against me, I would catch it by the jaw, strike it down, and kill it. Your servant has killed both lions and bears; and this uncircumcised Philistine shall be like one of them, since he has defied the armies of the living God.’ David said, ‘The Lord, who saved me from the paw of the lion and from the paw of the bear, will save me from the hand of this Philistine.’ So Saul said to David, ‘Go, and may the Lord be with you!’

            You know, over the years I’ve heard an interesting criticism of many preachers. Maybe you’ve criticized me for this. This criticism of preachers is fairly persistent, and I especially hear it from people who obviously like their sermons be “biblical” or “theological.” The criticism is, “That pastor’s sermons are too much about psychology, and not enough about the Bible.”

            I’ve heard people across the board say this stuff. I’ve heard it from members of pastor search committees, criticizing candidates. I’ve heard it from theology professors in their criticism of modern preaching. I’ve heard it from more conservative Christians who like sermons about salvation and morality, and I’ve heard it from liberal Christians who want sermons to be more about social justice.

            I find this criticism of “psychological” preaching to be a bit odd, though, because it’s not as though psychology is foreign to the Bible. In fact, the Bible is filled with lessons of basic psychology. No matter what part of the Bible you read, you find it focusing on how people think, how people behave, and how people should change their thinking and behaving. Isn’t that what psychology is basically about? It’s about understanding people’s attitudes, how they influence their thought processes, and how these influence people’s behavior. Psychology is about how to change attitudes, thinking, and behavior. And the Bible cares about these things, too.

            For instance, look at the story of Joseph in the Old Testament. It is filled with psychology. The story begins with Joseph, who has a huge EGO, telling his brothers of his dreams that they would all bow down before him one day. Makes you want to shout out to Joseph, “It’s okay to think it, Joseph, but you don’t have to say it!” His brothers get sick of his attitude and behaviors, so they first throw him in a pit to kill him, and then sell him into slavery. From there Joseph goes through a major attitude adjustment as he suffers a major ego blow, first in slavery, then in prison. The basic humility that comes about from these two experiences allows him to eventually ascend to a position of prominence, and to succeed. They also lead him to forgive his brothers.

            The story of Moses and the Israelites has a similar psychology. Moses is on top of the world as a special person in Pharaoh’s house, but after killing an Egyptian guard who was beating an Israelite slave, Moses has to spend the next 40 years in the desert. The whole psychology is a desert one of learning to let go of ego in order to become responsible and responsive to God and others. The Israelite 40-year journey through the desert matches Moses’ psychological journey.

            The Book of Proverbs is a book of pithy, self-help-ish, psychology statements meant to lead a person to better life. Jesus’ parables almost always deal with psychological issues, as does much of Paul’s writing. In essence, you can’t read the Bible without getting a healthy dose of psychology. Whenever I hear the criticism that someone preaches psychology, not Bible, I wonder what parts of the Bible don’t deal with psychology, sociology, anthropology, philosophy, biology, economics, and so much more. In fact, part of what makes the Bible so powerful is that it dealt with all of these topics before there were these topics.

            So, with this little self-protective intro, I want to introduce our new sermon series for the Fall, which is “How Do We Find Happiness?” It’s an exploration of the spirituality and psychology of happiness, culled from the Bible.

            I’ve been fascinated with this topic for a long time because the idea of the pursuit of happiness is so ingrained in our culture. It was a founding idea seen first in the Declaration of Independence: “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” We are a culture that places the drive to be happy at the core of our beliefs, yet if that’s the case, why do so few people seem to find happiness? Why do so many people pursue it, but don’t catch it? The reality is that in our culture so many of the people who get so much of what’s supposed to make them happy end up unhappy, while so many who have so little of what’s supposed to make them happy end up happy.

            What really cemented my awareness of this fact was a conversation I had with an African priest at Duquesne University, while studying for my doctorate. The program I studied in had Catholic and Protestant students from all over the world. And one student, Father Stephen from Kenya, once made a piercing comment over lunch. I had asked him what stood out most about having come to America for two years to get his masters degree. He said that two things stood out. First was how hard it was to decide on what cereal to buy. He said that in his country, Kenya, there were only about three or four choices, but here there were over 200. He said he could spend 30 minutes in a cereal aisle choosing cereal. His comment was that Americans have too much choice that it’s paralyzing. It was his second comment, though, that really struck me: “In our country, we are materially poor, but spiritually rich. In this country you are materially rich, but spiritually poor.” He mentioned that in most the churches here, people seem so offended when offerings are taken up. He said that we have so much money, but we make it seem like being asked to give is a terrible burden. Meanwhile, in his country the people have so little to give, but the offering typically takes 30 minutes because people dance up the aisles with their offerings of money, chickens, pigs, corn, and everything else. His take: Americans have so much to give, but hate to give. Kenyans have so little to give, but love to give.

            To me, Father Stephen was the epitome of what makes someone happy. Basically, happy people seek risks and challenges that stretch them, not rewards that enrich them. What does that mean for us, who live in a culture that pursues rewards for their own sake. The happiest people pursue challenges, without considering whether they will lead to great reward. Simply put, the happiest people aren’t the ones who get great rewards for what they do, but the ones who take risks that lead to great experiences of life. These are people who seek a calling, not comfort. They are curious, and follow that curiosity to take on challenges that come with following callings in life. They are people like David, who was willing to risk battling Goliath, without expecting a reward. They are people like Abraham, a city-dweller who was wiling to follow God into the wilderness and become a nomad. They are people like Jesus, who was willing to walk and preach, teach, and heal, regardless of reward or threat.

            I want to close with two stories that I believe capture this idea of happiness coming from risk and challenge rather than reward. The first is about a man named Blake Mycoskie. You may have actually seen Blake Mycoskie before, but there’s a better chance that you wear something that he makes.

            Mycoskie became somewhat well-known after appearing on the 2003 television show, The Amazing Race. He finished third that year, but made a promise to himself that he would return to visit one of the countries the race ran through: Argentina. It was on a follow-up vacation trip to Buenos Aries that he had an epiphany. While in the city, he decided to spend a day helping the poor. He latched onto a local charity that handed out shoes to the poor of the city. Mycoskie was floored by how many of the poor didn’t even have shoes—something he took for granted. He wondered what he could do to improve the situation.

            Returning to the U.S., and taking money from a previous business he had sold, he started Tom’s Shoes. You may know of the company, and even be wearing a pair. The shoes are well made, but very pricey for basic shoes. This is a for-profit company that has as its motto “One-to-One.” The idea is that every time you buy one pair of shoes, you not only buy a pair of shoes for yourself, but one new pair for someone who is poor. The shoe company has been such a great success that he started Tom’s Eyewear, which has a similar one-to-one philosophy. Each time you purchase a pair of Tom’s glasses, you either buy glasses for someone who is impoverished, or pay for an operation that restores sight.

            Blake Mycoskie is a person who has received great reward, but it’s not the reward that drove him. It was the risk and challenge of following his call.

            Another man who has sought out the risk of God’s calling is George McDonald. McDonald had to overcome a very difficult life to make a difference in the world. His parents divorced before he was a one-year-old. He never really knew his father. Then his mother died when he was thirteen, meaning that he was left under the care of a local Roman Catholic school and orphanage. It was there that he learned values that would come back later to guide his life, such as caring about the poor and the homeless. Yet it was also there that he decided he never wanted to be poor again, and dedicated himself to a life of acquiring rewards: i.e. wealth.

            Graduating from the orphanage high school, he entered college, but he wasn’t a student. After one year, he dropped out to work for McGregor Sportswear. He quickly rose up the ranks and became wealthy, eating out most nights in very expensive restaurants, partying at Club 21, and counting Joe Namath as one of his friends. He was getting all the rewards he felt he deserved, after having grown up in such a hard life. Then something happened to spark a change in his thinking. It was 1968, and tragedy hit the nation again when Robert F. Kennedy was assassinated. McDonald’s whole perspective was challenged and changed. He kept thinking about how the world’s priorities were skewed. The change wasn’t immediately apparent, but he increasingly thought more about the poor and the disadvantaged, and what he could do to help them. He noticed the disparity when he would go out to dinner and spend $200, only to have to step around a homeless man lying on the sidewalk while leaving the restaurant. It gnawed at him.

            Trying to do something about the problem, he decided to run for Congress. Three times he ran and three times he lost. Risk taken, but no reward. Still, he had made valuable connections in the political world that would come in handy as he looked for ways to help the poor. Wanting to make a more tangible difference, he spent 700 straight nights handing out sandwiches to the poor. Still he realized that more could be done. Eventually he developed a vision. He would create a program to train the homeless to work, and to give them lives off the street. That’s how he came up with the idea for the “Ready, Willing, and Able” program—a program to get the homeless off the street, train them for work, and get them jobs and homes. It’s also how he decided to start a charitable fund, the “Doe Fund,” which would fund efforts to reach out to the homeless. It got its name from a homeless woman, Mama Doe, who was locked out of Grand Central Station by police one subzero night, a place where she regularly slept on freezing nights. She froze to death. He recognized her from her picture in the paper, wearing a scarf he had given her three weeks before, while also realizing that he had regularly given her sandwiches. 

            Sparked by her death he found the drive to do something for the homeless. Since then he has committed his life to getting people off the streets and back into a responsible life. He found his life work as a servant, serving the poor, the hungry, and the homeless. He is a David, fighting a Goliath, seeking the risks and challenges put in front of him, rather than seeking reward.  

            The simple point that both men’s lives have shown is that it’s not life in pursuit of rewards that matters—whether wealth, power, or prestige—but life in pursuit of the risk of calling that matters.

            Amen.