Active Listening, Active Waiting, Psalm 130, The Rev. Connie Frierson


         I usually start the sermon with a question so here is the question for you.  Do any of you ever get confused reading scripture? Do you wonder how to tell the important things from the run of the mill stuff? Well some of you might be biblical scholars, but for the rest of us reading the bible is a challenge. So I have one quick and easy tip to tell if a point is important in the bible. You can tell the important points because the writer repeats it twice. You can tell the important points because the writer repeats it twice, Oh duh. Oh true. In Psalm 130, we are called to wait for the Lord like watchmen waiting for the morning, like watchmen waiting for the morning. Hold it. This waiting for the Lord is so important the psalmist repeats the phrase twice, “more than watchmen for the morning. 
         Is that how we wait for the Lord?  What do you all think about waiting?  Is waiting something you like? Is waiting something you are good at?  We think of waiting as a bad thing. Waiting is dead time, a waste of time, something to be avoided.  Yet in our passage today we are called to wait for the Lord. But in our world waiting gets no respect. Waiting is the Rodney Dangerfield of spiritual disciplines.
         I don’t think of waiting as a spiritual act.  I think of waiting as a pain. In the perfect world waiting should be cut to the minimum. There should be no waiting at all. I should go right from my internal idea of what should happen to having that thing happen. Life should be instantaneous, especially MY wants and need. Yet Psalm 130 describes a way of waiting that is profound and expectant. If waiting is so important maybe the kind of waiting and the kind of being that the psalmist is describing is quite different from what we think of as waiting. Waiting might be a so completely different that we are blind and ignorant to what waiting can powerfully and sacredly be.  How do we wait and how does God call us to wait? What’s the difference?
         How do we wait? Take your time answering. I have all day. We wait impatiently. We wait anxiously. We wait with worry or with rage. We wait idly. We are predisposed to action. We live under an illusion. The illusion is that if we just keep on moving we are making progress.  So, not getting in to talk to the doctor, or the slow driver ahead of us or not having the biopsy results or not finding the perfect job or the perfect mate feels to us like wasted time. This is life at a frenetic pace.  Let’s just keep moving along.  But sometimes moving along is just keeping the little hamster wheels of our life in motion.  This isn’t living. This is racing to death. We are going to swerve through traffic, pass the slow poke, cut off the student driver, dodge around the big truck and race to that red light before anyone else.  Does that sound familiar?
         We are waiting all wrong. We are dumb at waiting. We wait passively. We wait anxiously. We wait idly. God wants us to learn soul waiting. Soul waiting is different. Soul waiting is waiting expectantly, hopefully and actively. Soul waiting is a state of being that is completely different from the toe tapping, blank space we are used to. You can see this even in the posture of waiting.  Dead waiting is slack jawed, blank eyed and drooling. Soul waiting is attentive and ready and completely in the now and active.
         I have an example.  Back in the day, long, long ago I was a captain in the Air Force. I spent one long hot summer in Montgomery, Alabama in SOS, Squadron Officer School.  As part of this schooling we had teams that would work through a series of crazy problem solving obstacle courses.  For instance six of us would have two pieces of rope and three poles of different lengths and we would have to get the team over a ditch and a wall. We would walk into the course area and have a set of instructions handed to us and be timed on how fast we could complete the problem solving exercise.  On the first task I was handed the instructions and I started reading them to my team.  So I read, “The team must go from starting point over the yellow logs.” I slapped the yellow logs to illustrate.  Big mistake. We have to get over the yellow log and the ditch without touching them. So my slapping the yellow log before I got that far in the instructions earned my team a three-minute penalty. We weren’t allowed to start moving for 3 minutes. So for about 20 seconds we froze in silence. Waiting. Doing nothing.  Then I asked could we talk? The answer was yes we could talk and think. We just couldn’t move any of the pieces in place. So we spent the 3-minute penalty, reading the instructions and planning our strategy. We made it over the wall in good time despite the three-minute penalty. 
         This is our problem. We think of waiting as the absence of action. Waiting is an opportunity for reflection, for preparation and for readiness. We need a new word in the language for waiting. We need to wait actively. There is a big correlation between waiting actively and listening actively. We need to wait actively like we listen actively.  Who here thinks of listening as just dead space and a waste of time? I mean really, you really would just prefer to tell your own stories and talk right? Well we may hear each other making noise but how often do we really understand? Hearing noise and understanding another person are two different things.  This is like dead waiting and soul waiting. There is a technique called active listening that helps move us from blah, blah blah to connecting.   Active listening is a way of listening intensely to another person.  It is a way to short circuit our preconceptions and get to what the other person is saying by paraphrasing and asking question first about what the other person has said.  So often we think of listening as just a gap between the times we get to talk. This is like dead waiting. We think of waiting as just the dead space between our one goals and our personal desires.  There is space and time but nothing going on in between. But active listening dynamically understands. Active waiting and active listening help us get in touch with God.
         The original Hebrew in this passage gives us a great picture of what waiting for God looks like.  The Hebrew word kavah, which we translate to wait, really means the extension of a cord from one point to another. This is a fine metaphor: God is one point, the human heart is the other; and the extended cord between both is the earnest believing waiting of the soul. This desire strongly extended from the heart to God.  When we hold onto the other end with attention this is the active, energetic waiting. When we wait properly, we can feel the leading of God. The line of waiting becomes a lifeline, humming with energy, from God to us. This is soul waiting. When we put down the rope or hold it so slackly we can’t sense God’s pull, this is dead waiting. Isaiah writes, “Those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength.” The soul waiting can connect us with the source of power and strength. Waiting on God gives us direction and purpose.
         Henri J. M. Nouwen writes so beautifully about the spiritual discipline that is soul waiting. He writes,” To wait open-endedly is an enormously radical attitude toward life. So is to trust that something will happen to us that are far beyond our imaginings. So, too, is giving up control over our future and letting God define our life, trusting that God molds us according to God’s love and not according to our fear. The spiritual life is a life in which we wait, actively present to the moment, trusting that new things will happen to us, new things that are far beyond our own imagination, fantasy, or prediction. That, indeed, is a very radical stance toward life in a world preoccupied with control.”  Spiritual waiting changes how we look at ourselves and how we look for God in the world.
         The truth is some waiting is harder than others. Psalm 130 starts with, “out of the depths I cry.” The psalmist is in the depths, a bottomless dark place. This isn’t waiting with happy anticipation for Christmas morning. Waiting in the depths is waiting in the hospital room or the dark hours of the morning for the teen to get home safely. Waiting in the depths is an uncomfortable, painful place.  So this waiting takes a different kind of hold on that cord from God. This kind of waiting requires a faith that God is at the other end no matter what pit we are in. This kind of waiting pays attention to who is at the other end of the cord.  You aren’t waiting for just anyone. You are waiting for God, for the Lord of steadfast love.
          When you are in the depths, in the deep pit there will be lots of philosophies that will tempt you to let go of waiting for God.  A Buddhist might say: "Your pit is only a state of mind."  A Hindu might say: "This pit is for purging you and making you more perfect.” Confucius might say: "If you would have listened to me, you would never have fallen into that pit." A new ager might say: "Maybe you should network with some other pit dwellers." A self-pitying person might say: "You haven’t seen anything until you’ve seen my pit." A news reporter might say: "Could I have the exclusive story on your pit?" A bureaucrat might say: "Have you paid your taxes on that pit?"  A county inspector might say: "Do you have a permit for that pit?" A realist might say: "Yup, that’s a pit." An idealist might say: "The world shouldn’t have pits." An optimist might say: "Things could be worse." A pessimist might say: "Things will get worse." But Jesus, you in a pit, will take you by this expectant cord of faith and lift you out of the pit.
         Knowing whom you are waiting for is the difference between waiting dead and waiting with your soul.  A Christian holds onto the cord of faith so that God can pull you out. This is waiting with expectant faith. That is why we wait for God like watchmen on the walls on a dark night. A watchman is one who waits, looks and listens with complete concentration. A watchman knows the danger and remains alert. A watchman waits for that steadfast dawn.  So watch and wait wisely from a soul that knows its connection to God and knows the inevitability of the sunrise.
Amen